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Wednesday, November 10, 2010

A Hero Lies in You - Be YOUR OWN best friend!

I was thinking of this song tonight... and remembered what my mom told me a little while ago. Be YOUR own best friend. It's a novel idea, but one we probably don't realize! Mariah Carey sure did have some good songs back in the day! And this one is no exception...


Enjoy the lyrics:

There's a hero If you look inside your heart

You don't have to be afraid Of what you are

There's an answer If you reach into your soul

And the sorrow that you know Will melt away

And then a hero comes along With the strength to carry on

And you cast your fears aside And you know you can survive

So when you feel like hope is gone Look inside you and be strong

And you'll finally see the truth That a hero lies in you

"It's a long road When you face the world alone

No one reaches out a hand For you to hold

You can find love If you search within yourself

And the emptiness you felt Will disappear

And then a hero comes along With the strength to carry on

And you cast your fears aside And you know you can survive

So when you feel like hope is gone Look inside you and be strong

And you'll finally see the truth That a hero lies in you

Lord knows Dreams are hard to follow

But don't let anyone Tear them away

Hold on There will be tomorrow

In time You'll find the way

And then a hero comes along With the strength to carry on

And you cast your fears aside And you know you can survive

So when you feel like hope is gone Look inside you and be strong

And you'll finally see the truth That a hero lies in you"

The TALK - When I am a parent

I'm not sure what I will actually say to my child one day, but I believe a clear, direct, un-bashful talk is necessary. I had to write the essay below for my Heath Psychology class tonight. I figured I'd save the content for possible future use?

Q: At some point in your life you will most likely need to approach the topic of STDs and AIDS within the context of your role as a parent. How will you approach sexuality and HIV/AIDS transmission and infection? To what extent will you discuss abstinence, examples of high-risk behaviors, and/or behaviors associated with safer sex? How will you resolve (what is often viewed as) potentially competing demands of educating your child and instilling moral values? Imagine that you are the parent of a 13 year old. Write a short essay that describes this discussion.

A: Sex is a beautiful special gift from God. It is the power to create life and come closer to our spouse. He has shared this power with us - his children; but, he has also given us rules on how and when we are to use this power. God wants us to be happy and experience joy. When you are married you and your husband can share this gift with each other. You can also bring children into the world. This will bring you great joy and happiness.

Now, the world wants us to think that sex before marriage is ok or a good thing. The media is full of immoral behavior. It is common place in society today, but God has reminded us in the scriptures that we are to be chaste. We are blessed when we live God’s commandments, like the law of chastity, which means that we are to only have sexual relations with our legal husband or wife. When people have sex before marriage, there are serious consequences. First, we hurt our spirit. We also are hurting the spirit of the other person involved. The world wants you to think that if you love a boy, it’s ok to have sex. But, if you really loved each other you wouldn’t want to hurt each other. Having sex before marriage will only bring hurt, guilt and shame. We also offend God, if we break this very important commandment. We can repent if we sin, but this is a serious sin and even if we repentance and are forgiven, we still have to answer to the consequences.

There are also real physical consequences. You know how babies are made, and many kids that make the mistake of having sex before they are married, fall pregnant and are unable to take care of the child. The world says it’s ok to have an abortion, but it is not. That would be a great sin! If ever you are in a situation and you find yourself with a decision like this, come and talk to me. I will love you always. We will help you. Of course we will be sad for you, because I know that this sin is grievous and will not bring you joy. The scriptures teach us that wickedness never was happiness. Remember God wants us to be happy! That is why he gives us commandments. Commandments keep us safe from the devastating consequences of sin. Commandments are there to protect us. They are from a loving Heavenly Father.

Pregnancy and the creation of life is supposed to be the most beautiful part of life! God wants us to share this gift with him. You will experience this joy when you are a wife one day. You will get to be a mommy raise your children in the gospel with your husband. The ramifications of pregnancy outside of marriage can be devastating. Adoption is the best option if something eve happens to you or your friend. The Church helps people who cannot have babies on their own to adopt children from people, like teenage girls, who cannot raise a child.

There are also certain diseases that are very bad, that are passed through sex. STD’s are terrible diseases that can result from unprotected sex. HIV can also be attained which is incurable, leads to AIDS and eventually a person will die because of the weakened state that their body is in as a result. There are some other behaviors like using illegal drugs that can give people HIV/AIDS because it is spread through bodily fluid, like blood. Some people who do not live the commandments and the law of chastity and participate in sex before marriage sometimes try to use “protection” against these diseases, such as condoms, but there are often not effective and can still result in sickness and death. The best protection is to not participate in these behaviors. To keep the commandments and to be morally clean and pure.

Elder Holland once said this in the talk the INCONVENIENT MESSIAH,
“This highest of all physical gratifications you were designed and created to enjoy. It is as natural as it is appealing. It is given of God to make us like God. And Satan has certainly capitalized on a divinely ordained appeal. But it is not yours without price. Not instantly. Not conveniently. Not with cozy corruption of eternal powers. It is to be earned, over time and with discipline. It, like every good thing, is God’s right to bestow, not Satan’s. When faced with that inherent appetite, a disciple of Christ must be willing to say, “Yes, but not this way.” In time, with love, after marriage. The right and proper and sanctified physical relationship of a man and a woman is as much a part–indeed more a part–of God’s plan for us as is the eating of our daily bread. But there is no convenient Messiah. Salvation comes only through discipline and sacrifice….In our time the only restraint left is self-restraint. I ask you to say of this highest, most intimate, most sacred physical expression, “Yes, but not this way.” I ask you to be inconvenienced until you’ve earned the right and paid the divine price to know the body and the soul of the one you love. Excuse me for speaking boldly, but this must be said.”

What questions do you have? I will answer any questions you have about anything, that I have said or you wish I had said. I’m open and want you to feel open with me.

PS: This is a great article on CHASTITY and sexuality! Why Standard Night is Substandard by Kathryn Soper!

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

New Language HYBRID song: I Love You - Ek is Lief vir Jou

Hey guys. I wrote this song with Alisha Merrick. It's in English and Afrikaans :)and it's called I LOVE YOU or EK IS LIEF VIR JOU!


I have spent some time now thinking about how we waste money on giving gifts on holidays and birthdays that are often only temporarily used or appreciated. And then today after watching the new GIRL EFFECT video:

I found a link on their site, where you can buy a gift that KEEPS GIVING! A gift card that has the receiver choses where the gift goes. There are hundreds of ideas from helping fund a year of a girls school, to helping purchase chickens or products for the girl to have a business. I think it is such an awesome idea I am gonna start doing it!!! :)

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

What Faith LOOKS Like!

In 2008 Stephanie Nielson and her husband had a plane crash and survived horrific burns and injuries. This is their story of healing and love. It will make you happy and sad and maybe you will cry like me. Please take a couple minutes to watch this video:

Stephanie has been a avid blogger and has a WIDE following on her blog since 2005. Click here to read the NieNie Dialogues.

Let us find discover a deeper level of our own faith as we see this example of true FAITH.

Saturday, May 1, 2010

Someday, someone...

Could this be more true?
If you haven't yet heard JUST TO BE WITH YOU
by David Archuletta. Listen to it NOW!!!

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Monday, April 12, 2010

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Saturday, April 10, 2010


I was so excited the last few weeks in preparing for my first show as headliner. It was a great experience and I got some great feedback. I love to perform and had some great musicians with me. Thanks to all who showed up and supported me in this endeavor.
There will be MANY more shows and songs to come in the future.

Monday, March 29, 2010

Some forwarded emails are good!


One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

"One is Evil - It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

"The other is Good - It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness,
benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

Thursday, March 18, 2010


by Erma Bombeck - written after she found out she was dying from cancer.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime..

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, 'Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.' There would have been more 'I love you's',more 'I'm sorry's.'

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would = seize every minute.look at it and really see it . live it and never give it back. STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF!!!

Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what. Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

The Challenge

I restarted the Body for Life program MARCH 15th, since I tried starting a month again, but I was sick, then I didn't have the right foods, and the journal to keep track of everything, and then it just seemed daunting, cause if felt like ALL I could think about for days was ICE-CREAM! Specifically cookies and cream. Well I got that out my system and NOW I started it again FOR REALS! I am excited. I really want things to change. To have discipline in my life. PLANNING (like I did as a missionary) is essential in success and reaching goals. Accountability and responsibility! So here we go AGAIN.

I am trying to lose 20lbs of body fat and gain 5lb of muscle, including running 5k under 30 mins.

I just ran the Rex Lee Cancer Run on Saturday and ran it in 39 mins so I was happy about that. I have not been exercising or running like I should the last several months.

Thursday, March 11, 2010

Thoughts on kindness and the RUDE ELEVATOR GIRL

Maybe I am too sensitive and think about things way too much... However, just a moment ago something happened that really irked me!

I was in the JFSB on Brigham Young University campus. I had about 1 minute to get to my class on the 4th floor. My work is right by an elevator and stairwell on the 1st floor. I quickly pressed the UP button and waited a few seconds, when a another girl ran up and stretched in front of me to push the DOWN arrow and I was thinking "Are you kidding me? It's just ONE level down." So as we were getting on the elevator I asked this girl "Are you going to wait for me to go up 3 floors to go down 1?" The girl was quick also to stretch so she could quickly push "B" and emphatically claim: "It will go down first!" It ok me by surprise, and I kinda just shook my head and looked away in fear or turning into Bon Qui Qui (see video in the post before this) and resisting the temptation to shout - RUDE! SECURITY! I WILL CUT YOU!

I was really annoyed when she was right and the elevator went DOWN (she must have experience in doing this). To add to my frustration, the elevator returned to the 1st floor and "cancelled" my original request to go UP to the 4th floor. Maybe she had never heard the phrase, "First-come, first-served?"

Now, perhaps I am making this small thing into something bigger than it needs to be, but I think it triggered my growing belief that many people today have no idea, or do not care about displaying manners or kindness and rather are increasing in selfishness.

Did rude-elevator-girl portray manners or kindness? We both had somewhere to be, and while I felt justified in using the elevator to go up 3 floors, she must have felt justified in going down one floor. Her smirk and a non-care pushing-in-front and cutting-line attitude was frustrating. She did say "have a good day" as she got off the elevator, this however felt empty and insincere when empty compared to her actions.

So, after this event, and the subsequent pondering and venting on my blog, I am forced to look at myself. Have I ever done something like this? Something rude and lacking manners? Probably, although no specific event comes to mind right now. But, I am convinced to pay more attention to my actions and catch myself if I am behaving like rude-elevator-girl.

In conclusion, I challenge myself, and all who read this, to not only recognize selfish or rude behavior, but to finds ways to MORE kinder, generous and selfless. For those of you who haven't heard of the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation check out there website here!

Bon Qui Qui at King Burger - MAD TV

Here is the video I was referring to earlier!

Monday, February 15, 2010

Day 1 - The first step

"The journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step." ~Confucius

Well, it's DAY 1 and even though I have a cold, I got myself out of bed and to the gym. Today, was upper body and I DID IT! 45 minutes of lifting, and it went by fast! I am eating correct portions and honesty it almost feels I'm required to eat MORE than I am use to! SERIOUSLY. The difference? Eating the right amount of GOOD food, leaves little if any room for even thinking about BAD, high or empty calorie foods. YAY, for this program. I feel good (except for this sinus thing I have).

I'm going to have a focus of each day, and today is:

Mindful eating. That means slowing down and really tasting the food. Chewing each bite mindfully and thankfully. Food tastes way better this way.

Bring it on!

Sunday, February 14, 2010

A New Day!

Goals for the next 12 weeks:

1. Follow the BODY-FOR-LIFE 12-wk program
2. Get up everyday before 6.30 AM
3. Be in bed by 11 PM
4. Meditate for at least 10 minutes each day
5. Be grateful everyday and focus on successes

Outcomes I want:
1. Less stress
2. More self confidence and esteem
3. High energy levels
4. Toned health sexy body
5. Happiness and positivity


Today, Valentines Day 2010, I was sick! I stayed home from church and rested. Other than sleeping I got some much needed reading in (The Book of Mormon (in Afrikaans) Teach Yourself Meditation in 10 Simple Lessons (great ideas in there about stress release) and the entire 200 page BODY-FOR-LIFE manual by Bill Phillips.

I rarely get through a book in a few weeks let alone a day, but CHANGE has been knocking on my door for some time now and I finally opened the door more than just a crack. I'm actually figuratively out the door -its open so wide!

I decided even though I am not a huge Valentines-Day-Celebrator, I decided I am doing to give MYSELF - yes ME - some LOVE <3 and give myself the best gift I can: More energy, discipline, confidence, self-esteem, and health and happiness. I am going to stop hurting myself, lying to myself, beating myself up and BE GOOD TO MYSELF!

I am celebrating CHINESE NEW YEAR in style today by making some new goals (will be posted soon) for this year (after sickness and construction and moving got in the way of Jan 1st resolutions). NOTHING WILL STOP ME NOW!!!

Tomorrow, February 15th, 2010 will be the first step of this 84 day (12 week) journey that will be the beginning journey of the rest of my life. Now, you may be thinking~ Can she do it? Will she do it? The answer a resounding YES! I CAN and I WILL!

I'm going to post my progress every couple days on here and show you that CHANGE is possible.

I started this blog with a blog about CHANGE and now is time to fulfill that desire that is deep with in me (click here to read). I will draw on inner strength and pray that God will help me in my quest to reach. my potential because "When you gain control of your body, you gain control of your life" (page 1, BFL). I don't just believe that statement, I know it, because thats the answer I got a few weeks ago when I first realized that my life was out of control. Take control of one aspect of your life and others follow suit.

So, here I go...

The River Runs Through It

This is one of my FAVORITE clips from one of my favorite books/movies. The symbolism is rich and deep and the cinematography is stunning! Enjoy!

Tuesday, February 9, 2010


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Friday, January 22, 2010